My first appointment today is a man, early 30’s, divorced, his long term goal is marriage and children. He was referred to me by a couple who met and married through Perfectly Matched in 1992. This couple is good friends with his parents. His best friend also encouraged him to call me.
He said “For the most part, I am not meeting anyone that I date more than once or twice. I dated two ladies for a couple of months and then some show stopper pops up and I know it won’t work.”
He was married very young and has a grade school child who lives in another state. His life experiences have made him more emotionally mature than most young men his age.
He said “Most of my friends are 10 to 15 years older than me and I can comfortably date a lady up to 37. I would like to have more kids but if the right person for me does not want, or cannot have kids, I would want to meet her.”
His passion is motor sports. He enjoys pool, darts, anything outdoors, and works out five times a week.
He said “I am an extreme morning person. I go to bed about 11pm and wake up at 4:30 and that’s plenty of sleep for me.”
He is tall, dark and handsome but when I asked him about physical attraction he said “That’s important but I know people who overlook many things that do not work for them in a relationship because they are so attracted to someone. I won’t do that.”
He did not make a decision to join Perfectly Matched today.
He said “I always sleep on something like this. I told my mom I would stop by and talk to her about it and I will call you tomorrow.”
I think mom his on my side since she sent him to me in the first place.
My second appointment is a man, late 50’s, divorced, a rancher, and his long term goal is a serious relationship. He would live with someone but he is probably not interested in marriage.
He is a very easy going man, “8.5” on a scale of “0” to “10”.
I said “You can’t get much more easy going than you. I would bet you have a tendency to stay in relationships twice as long as you should because you will give someone the benefit of the doubt until there is no doubt.”
He said “How can you know that about me just because of that number? Yes, I stay in at least twice as long as I should.”
He is a delightful, down to earth, salt of the land, born and raised Colorado cowboy. He works as hard today as he has all his life and he loves it. He is fit as a fiddle and the picture of health. He smiles a lot and is very happy with the people in his life, including adult children and grandchildren. He has been self employed his entire life.
He said “I have been married twice and this time I would like to meet the person I can be with for the rest of my life. I don’t really see the need for marriage at this stage of my life but if I loved someone and it was important to her, I would do just about anything to make her happy.”
He rides and trains horses, has cattle, rodeos, enjoys hunting, fishing, county and western music and dancing.
He is also going to think about this overnight and get back to me tomorrow.
It never surprises me when easy going people tell me they need to “think about it”. The first young man is also very easy going, an “8” in temperament.
I am pretty good at guessing whether or not someone will “be back” and I think I will see both of these fellows tomorrow.
To be continued………………………