My first appointment today is a lady, 50, divorced, educated, and her long term goal is a serious long term relationship, possibly marriage. She has two children and she has been a stay at home mom since they were born.
She is very athletic, participates in many sports, and volunteers for several organizations.
She said “My children are my first priority and any man in my life is going to have to respect that they come first, and always will. I have great kids and I am always mindful of setting a good example for them.”
She goes skiing, hiking, biking, rollerblading, camping and takes road trips with the kids. They have traveled all over the US and Europe. She also plays golf, tennis, and considers herself a very competitive person.
When I asked her what income would be compatible with her as far as a man is concerned, she said “I am a one percenter and he should be a one percenter too.
I said “What do you mean when you say one percenter?”
She said “My income is in the top one percent of the people in the country which means we make most of the money and pay most of the taxes.”
I said “I cannot recall anyone telling me they need someone who is a one percenter. What kind of income would that be?”
He needs to be very wealthy, or he will probably be intimidated by my lifestyle.”
I said “What minimum income level would that be?”
I never did get a number so I guess I will have to go with what I think very wealthy would be for her.
She wants a man who is at least 5’11, very fit, and she prefers clean shaven.
She said when she was driving to see me she was thinking “I can’t believe I am doing this, it’s all too much trouble.”
She is a nice lady with a lot to offer to a relationship but my options for her are very limited because of her preferences.
She is going to “think about it” and get back to me. My gut feeling is she will decide it is too much trouble.
My second appointment is a man, early 40’s, ABS, educated, and his long term goal is marriage and children.
He said “I would like to meet a lady who wants to adopt children. There are so many kids that need parents and I have been seriously thinking about adoption even if I don’t get married.”
Women have said that to me before, but this is the first time I have ever had a man say he plans to adopt even without a partner.
He said “I have great parents and I have a strong desire to have that life experience.”
He is very smart, fit, active, and enjoys hiking, camping, skiing, traveling, reading, and building things with his hands. He has a cabin that has been a work in progress for a few years.
He said “I keep adding and changing and coming up with new ideas. My friends have started referring to my little cabin in the woods as “The Mini Broadmoor.”
His age preference for a lady is 30 to 50, as long as she wants to adopt children. He is totally open on race, height, education, and the only nonnegotiable is smoking.
He is fine with a lady who has children as long as there is no drama with the ex-husband.
He said “Donna, I don’t want this to sound like it’s all about adopting kids. I would much rather raise a child or children in a loving home with two parents. Finding the right lady to share my life with is equally important. I want to raise awesome kids with an awesome wife. That would be my dream come true.”
I plan to do everything I can to help him make his dream come true.
To be continued……………