August 20, 2013

My first appointment today is a lady, late 30’s, divorced, educated, self employed, and her long term goal is marriage.

She said “I always thought I would have kids, but it didn’t happen. I would like to meet someone who also does not have kids. Is that going to be a problem?”
I said “What if his kids are in college, or not living at home?’
She said “I guess it depends on the kids but I think I will be more comfortable with a man who does not have kids and does not want kids.”

She likes to do what she referred to as “adventure travel”.
She said “I can run my business anywhere there is an internet connection so I have a lot of flexibility.”
She enjoys running, hiking, camping, fly-fishing, climbing 14teeners, kayaking, skiing, cooking and eating healthy and photography.
She said “I live to be outdoors doing something physically challenging and I would love to share those experiences with a man again.”

She is very fit and naturally pretty but she is not a girly girl.
She said “My sister calls me the granola girl. I am not into heels, dresses, or much makeup. Getting my nails done is as girly as I get.”

She said “I had a great marriage, he was my best friend. I know what that feels like and I want to feel it again.”
Their marriage ended because he found a new best friend.
She said “That’s history. I have no regrets and I am excited about finding a man I can hike, run, kayak, and zip line our way all over the world together.”

Any Tarzans out there looking for Jane?

A client stopped by today to share a complaint about the last lady he met through Perfectly Matched.
He said “Don’t you tell these ladies that it should be Dutch treat if food or drink is involved in the first meeting?”
I said “Yes, it’s on the list of “Do’s and Don’ts” I give to everyone.”
He said “Our drinks and appetizers cost me $60 and she didn’t offer to split it.”
The first meeting is suppose to be one hour, not lunch or dinner, and if drinks are involved it’s usually coffee. They spent three hours at a happy hour bar and had four drinks plus appetizers.
I pointed out if he had followed the rules there would not have been a $60 tab.
I also told him I thought he should let a lady know beforehand if he expects her to split the tab.

Ladies today cannot safely assume the man is always going to pay the tab. They are becoming accustomed to splitting it.
We’ve come a long, baby!

To be continued………