Donna's Daily Diary - January 2, 2010

A new year, a new decade, a new chance to start over on whatever. I spent some time with good friends on Friday, the 1st , and there was a discussion about whether or not “we” are going to say “Two thousand and ten…or…twenty ten.” We all agreed it would be “twenty ten” because it is shorter, quicker, faster and easier to say. We are so fast wired today, every nana second counts. Unfortunately. The internet has changed how people meet and get to know one another. Unfortunately. I do not know how anyone can trust anyone they meet on the internet after all the stories I have heard. On CNN a couple of days ago they featured a company called “Cheater’s something” and everyone understands that most, if not all, of the members are married. I can actually see the value of their service. The biggest complaint I hear from women who try internet services is that they meet married men. At least with this service there are no surprises. What does this say about where we are today when it comes to meeting, dating and finding the right person? I actually grew up with “Ozzie and Harriett “and Ricky Nelson was my all time major “crush.” At the same time there was “Leave it to Beaver” and June Cleaver with her 19” waist, always in an apron. When you went out with someone two or three times before you decided whether or not you were attracted to them. Today, it’s a nana second. Instantly we decide if we are attracted to someone, even when we know nothing else about them. When you meet someone through my service you know where they are in their relationship history. How many marriages, how long married, how long since their last serious relationship and what their long term goal is as far as a relationship is concerned. If they are a client, I have already determined they are emotionally available. Everyone I work with at Perfectly Matched wants the same thing..to meet that one special person they can spent the rest of their lives with..that could be marriage, it could be living together, it could be living apart, it could be whatever works for the two people involved. But, not one of them wants to meet someone who is married or not emotionally available. It’s a good place to start.

My first appointment today is a man I have talked with off and on for eight years. After all this time, he finally came in for the interview. His personal life took eight years to get to the top of his priority list. He is mid 60’s, educated, his age preference is 40 to 50 and his long term goal is a serious relationship, possibly marriage. He is fit, physically active and, admires those qualities in a woman. He is smart, fun, good sense of humor, entertaining, personable and I do not have one single match for him. He had a list of preferences, requirements and “must haves” longer than my arm. He has always been single. He said “You are telling me you do not have one lady that meets my preferences?” I said “I have two but I have to look at the match from both perspectives and you would not be a good match for them, based on their preferences.” He wanted to know how he did not meet their preferences and I told him he was shorter than both their preferences. He says he’s 5’10 but I guessed closer to 5’7. Nice guy but, unrealistic expectations.

My second appointment is the daughter of a previous client and she is now a new client! Second generation, I think this is the third time this has happened. She is so much like her mother. Their scores are identical. It’s amazing. She is 23, ABS, educated and, her long term goal is marriage and children. We have so much time to get this right. I am confident I will help her find the love of her life and get it right the first time!

To be continued Tuesday……………………………..