Donna's Daily Diary - January 26, 2010

My first appointment on Saturday was a man, in his mid 30’s, divorced and, he has physical custody of his three children. Their mother is not in the picture. His mother moved here to help care for the children and she lives with them. His long term goal is marriage and he is open to having more children. He has been in the military for 15 years and in the five years he has been divorced he has been deployed to Iraq twice. He does not think he will be deployed again and he plans to stay in Colorado Springs when he retires in five years. His ex wife and the two ladies he has dated since his divorce all cheated on him. He was very focused on physical attraction and said “I have never dated a bad looking woman and she’s got to be beautiful, that’s the most important thing.” I said “More important than not cheating on you?” He said “That’s the problem. If they are good looking they are going to cheat on you.” I said “So, you are going to pay me money to find you a good looking woman who you believe will cheat on you?” Long story short, this is not a man who should realistically be looking for a beautiful woman. He has very yellow teeth and he smokes, he’s very thin and not bad looking but most likely not the type of man a beautiful woman would find attractive. He has a heart of gold and fought for five years to get custody of his children. His said his ex wife was into drinking and drugs and they don’t know where she lives. I have no matches for him, mainly because of the smoking. I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt that his idea of beautiful and my idea of beautiful are probably very different. I suggested he quit smoking, whiten his teeth and, come back with pictures of women he finds attractive and I would see if I have any matches at that time. If he does all that, I will work with him forever to find the right match.

My second appointment on Saturday was a “be back.” A lady I interviewed a few weeks ago and she wanted to “think about it”. She went to her dentist and the receptionist is a new client at Perfectly Matched. She was very excited about a man she just met and started telling her all about him. She realized the man she was talking about was a man whose information I had shared with her in the interview. When she called me she said “You gave away one of my men!” She laughed then she explained and I said “That’s life, you snooze, you lose.” She scheduled an appointment to come back and sign up Saturday and she said “Now don’t match anymore of “my” men until I get to meet them.” I already had a match set up for her with one of “her” men when she came in. She felt better.

Today, Tuesday, my first interview is a lady in her early 50’s, divorced with a child in elementary school. She had been trying the internet dating services and most of the men were not interested because of the age of her child. She shared stories and pictures with me about her child and anyone who likes kids would find in easy to make a place in their hearts for this child. I told her I would only match her with men who respond favorably to the “package deal”. She is also an expert, beyond expert, skier. She has been skiing for 40 years and said “I live to ski.” She loves to cook and the outdoors. She is a very open, genuine, down to earth, centered and, funny lady. We laughed a lot in the interview. She was surprised that I have men who are good matches for her who also have younger children. She was referred to me by a lady who has been happily married to a man she met at Perfectly Matched for eight years. Marsha has sent me more referral business than any other client. Thanks again, Marsha!

My second interview today is a lady, in her late 30’s, ABS (always been single), no children and is not interested in having children but, she is totally fine with meeting a man who has children. She interviewed with me almost seven years ago but decided not to join. Since then she has had two significant relationships. She said “I want the whole package this time. In every relationship I have had there has always been a missing piece of the package; the intimacy didn’t work, the financial responsibility was not there, the physical attraction wasn’t strong enough, etc. Now I know what the whole package looks like and, that’s what I want.” And she can have it…she is pretty, smart, financially stable and responsible, active, easy going, a little shy and also funny. The better someone knows the type of person they are looking for, the more information they can share with me, the sooner we become focused, the quicker it can happen. She came in with notes and she had lots of notes. She is going to make my job much easier.

I am very excited to have the opportunity to help both of these ladies with this important part of their lives and I know I have men who will be happy to meet them. I love being in the love business!

To be continued tomorrow…………….