Donna's Daily Diary - January 29, 2010

My first appointment today is a lady, mid 40’s, divorced, no children and her long term goal is a long term serious relationship and possibly marriage. She is not interested in having children and she prefers to meet a man who either has no children or children who are grown and own their own. She said “Nothing against kids, I feel I have a better chance of being a priority in a man’s life if he doesn’t have children.” She is a “9” in affection so I can easily believe she likes a lot of attention. She is also an “8” in sociability and enjoys being “out and about”. She said “If you can find me a man who is tall, affectionate and outgoing, that would be all I need to be happy.” Before the interview was over she added “Oh yeah, and, of course good looking. Oh and, financially stable and can afford some of the finer things in life. Of course it would be nice if he liked to hike, bike and ski. Oh and, he must want to travel.” She said “If you can find all of that the only thing that could be a show stopper is if my dog doesn’t like him.” I said “If I find you the type of man you are looking for and your dog doesn’t like him it’s a show stopper?” She said “My dog knows better than me if a man is not right for me.” I said “Maybe I know better than your dog if a man IS right for you.” I am going to focus on finding her the right man and she can deal with her dog.

The doctor that I interviewed and wrote about on the 15th came back to sign up today. He had met a lady on his own just previous to his interview with me and there was enough interest go out with her a few times before he made the commitment to Perfectly Matched. She recently shared information with him that helped him decide he should keep his options open and meet other ladies. He went out with her just a few times but there were red flags all over the place. I can tell by what he shared with me she is either not emotionally available or not interested in him or both. Either way, I have some wonderful matches for him and I already matched him with a lady I know is emotionally available and I believe will definitely be interested in him. This man does not have to settle for someone who tells him she “has a friend with benefits” in her life. That is a bit much even for a nonconformist.

My third appointment is a lady, mid 30’s, ABS, educated, has a fabulous job that she loves and makes a terrific income. She has everything else going for her but she is 50 pounds overweight. She has lost 30 pounds doing Weight Watchers and is determined to get to reach her weight goal and lose the other 50 pounds. She was discouraged when I shared with her that her weight could be a limiting factor in the matching process. She feels great about losing 30 pounds and, rightfully so, but the reality is that most men would still have an issue with a lady who is 50 pounds overweight. She asked me to “pretend” that she was not overweight and wanted to know how many matches I would have for her. I shared information on five different men who would be good matches if she was not overweight. She said “I am more determined than ever to lose this weight and I will come see you again when I reach my goal weight.” I said “You lose another 30 pounds and you are in the ballpark, call me then.” It is always hard to tell a lady that her weight can be a limiting factor but it is especially hard when she has already lost 30 pounds. I have every expectation this lady will reach her goal and we will we working together soon.

To be continued tomorrow……………………