Donna's Daily Diary - February 2, 2010

My first appointment today is a lady in her late 40’s, divorced, grown children, has a Masters degree and her long term goal is a serious relationship, possibly marriage. She has tried the online services and has the same complaints I hear over and over about internet dating; time consuming, ineffective, people aren’t honest and they live too far out of the area. She is very pretty and was surprised at how many men responded to her information who were not even close to good matches. She said “It was a ridiculous waste of time.” She also found some of their emails to be “rude and crude.” After one month and 100’s of responses there was not one man she chose to meet. She likes that I do the screening and all the work but she was disappointed when I told her I don’t show pictures when I make a match. I said “I have a good eye for picking levels of attraction and I try hard not to insult anyone but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Once I match someone once or twice, I am more in tune with them and the type of person they find attractive.” I also added “However, seeing a picture is not out of the question. Trust my judgment on the first one or two matches and if I am not introducing you to men you find attractive then I will show you a picture on the next match.” I already know who I will match her with first and he is very good looking..in my opinion and I think she will agree. She is fit, active, enjoys biking, hiking, scuba diving, the arts, concerts, plays and loves spectator sports, especially CC hockey and the AV’s and the Bronco’s. We had a nice little chat about John Elway.

My second appointment is a lady in her late 60’s. She was married for almost 40 years and has been widowed for ten years and is still wearing her wedding rings. She made a point of mentioning that so I asked why she was still wearing them. She said “I can’t get them off.” I said “You can cut them off.” She said “Do you think it will be a problem if I don’t cut them off?” I said “If I met a man who had been widowed for ten years and he was still wearing his wedding ring my first thought would be that he was not emotionally ready to move on.” I suggested she should do whatever feels most comfortable to her then I asked her how she would feel if she met a man who was widowed for ten years and still wearing his wedding ring. She said “I get what you’re saying.” This lady is also extremely shy, on a scale of “0” to “10” she is a “2.5”. I have two possible matches for her and she still decided to become a client. She had made up her mind before she came in for the interview she was going to do it. She is not interested in marriage or living together. She is interested in companionship and possible romance. She said “You have a real challenge on your hands with me.” I said “I love a challenge and it only takes one right one.”

My third appointment is another lady, late 50’s, divorced, very tall and thin. I asked her age preference for a man and she said “45 to 58”. I said “You won’t go any older than 58, why?” Of course I knew the answer, it’s the same one I have been hearing from older men for twenty years, “I wouldn’t find him attractive and he couldn’t keep up with me.” I said “What if you did (find him attractive) and what if he could (keep up with you)? She said “OK, 60.” She really prefers younger men… GRRRRRRR, another cougar.

To be continued tomorrow………………………