Donna's Daily Diary - February 12, 2010

One of my clients came in to visit with me today to go over her profile and discuss possible matches. This young lady is mid 30’s, divorced, educated, a nurse, very petite and very pretty. She is fit, healthy, active and, her long term goal is marriage and children. She is a new client and I have only matched her once so I just getting to know her. Her scores say she is direct and straight forward, a little shy, open minded but also a bit traditional, affectionate, romantic, a strong believer and budget minded. She would love to have children and be a stay at home mom. One of her greatest pleasures is reading. She also enjoys travel, hiking, yoga, photography, jogging, theater, concerts, exercising and, quiet time at home. Her faith is important. She is open to any Christian faith. Whether or not he goes to church, it would be important for him to be a believer. She strongly prefers to meet a man who has no children, is educated, fit, lives a healthy lifestyle, between the ages of 29 to 43, height preference 5’8 to 6’2, a nonsmoker, and a light social drinker is fine. As I went through all of her preferences, we talked about possible matches and looked at pictures. We both ultimately agreed that she would wait for someone who meets more of her preferences. We covered a lot of ground today in becoming more focused on the man she hopes to meet and marry. Now all we have to do is find him. And, of course, physical attraction is important. She is definitely an attractive lady and will be most compatible with a definitely attractive man. Could it be you?

Another one of my clients called with an interesting story. She met a man on her own and she was so excited she called and asked me to put her “on hold”, which means she is not available to meet anyone. That was three weeks ago and today she called to come “off hold”. I asked her what happened and she said “He was after my money!” There were too many odd questions and comments about her money. After a nice dinner in her beautiful home and a couple of glasses of wine he totally surprised her by saying he was in love with her and thought they should get married. To say it was a “red flag” would be an understatement. She said “more like a flaming torch!”She said “We don’t even know each other and I am in no position to get married. My house is in foreclosure and I just filed bankruptcy. I am broke and deeply in
debt”, none of which is true. She said it looked like she had thrown a glass of cold water in his face. He said something like “yeah you should probably get that taken care of.” Thirty minutes later he was gone. He sent her an email and said he had met someone else and wished her luck. This is another example of how women are becoming more like men in the dating world. It is no big secret that there are women who look for a man who has money. Today there are just as many men looking for women who have money. The roles have reversed but the game is not the same. This is just a natural occurrence that was bound to happen as many women now make as much, and more money than men. However, in these situations, most men know what they are getting for their money. Most women don’t.

To be continued tomorrow…………….