Donna's Daily Diary - February 19, 2010

My first appointment today is a man, late 50’s but, looks much younger, divorced, educated, active, fit, a good job, world traveled, attractive and short. Until he was divorced he did not know that his height would be a limiting factor. He went on a couple of the on-line services and quickly became aware that women prefer taller men. I told him I would only match him with women who are comfortable with his height. My experience has been that women who are comfortable with shorter men are usually very self confident women. Many women think short men have what they refer to as “the short man complex”. I have asked them to explain what they mean by “the short man complex”. The jest of it is, in general, they overcompensate for their lack of height by overachieving, striving to be more successful, being in control and enjoying being powerful. My response is “And the problem with that is????” Women tell me they like taller men because it makes them feel safe, secure and protected but the reality is someone closer to your own height fits better for walking, dancing, sleeping and all other one on one activities. I just hate to see a lady limit herself, especially when she can put on three inch heels and still be shorter than him. I am a champion for short men, most of the ones I work with are great guys and so is this man. He is close to his grown children and grandchildren. He has a great attitude and leads a terrifically healthy lifestyle. I said “You were married for a long time. Do you have any regrets about your marriage ending?” He said “Some days I do, but most days I don’t.” I have some great matches for him and I’m guessing the “most days I don’t” are going to outnumber the “some days I do” real soon.

My second appointment is a lady, early 50’s, a doctor, very physically active, fit and trim. She was referred to me by several people who have met their “significant others” through Perfectly Matched. She is very focused on the type of man she would like to meet and the only way she limited herself was with her height preference. No one shorter than 6’ is her preference but, she would consider 5’10….absolutely no shorter than 5’10, which would still be four inches taller than her. As I work with her I might find she is more flexible on that, I hope so. This is the type of lady who would probably never have called a dating service and it took more than one person encouraging her before she did call me. I have some nice matches for her and she is going to “think about it” and let me know next week. I think she has waited long enough to make her personal life a priority and I hope she becomes a new client. I know her friends have her best interest at heart, so do I, and I think she knows that too.

I made twelve matches today so, 24 people who never knew this person existed before today will meet in the next few days and could be meeting the love of their life, or not, but I will keep working with them until they do…that’s why I don’t put a time frame on my service…I don’t give up and it only takes ONE right one.

To be continued tomorrow…………………….