Donna's Daily Diary - March 2, 2010

My first appointment today is a lady, mid 50’s, divorced, educated, grown children, and her long term goal is marriage. She said “I’m close to my children and grandchildren but I am not always hovering around, the next 30 years are mine.” She was very surprised how much I knew about her just based on her six scores from the profile test. She is an “8” in temperament which means she is very easy going. The first thing I said to her once I had her scores was “With this temperament score you probably stay in relationships twice as long as you should.” She said “I do! Why do I do that?” I said “Because you will give them the benefit of the doubt until there is no more doubt.” She couldn’t understand how I could know that about her just because of a number. By the time I finished with all six scores she said “This is unbelievable.” When people see their scores on a graph with a scale of “0” to “10” in six areas of compatibility; temperament, sociability, conforming, affection, religion, and finance, it is easier to understand. Finding someone as close to your own scores as possible means you will meet someone who thinks much the same way you do in these six areas of compatibility. Add that to similar long term goals, shared interests and activities, pay attention to the issues like smoking, drinking, kids, pets, education, intellectual compatibility, income, then add the MUTUAL physical attraction, and “volia” you are Perfectly Matched!

My second appointment is early 30’s, not 40’s, as I mentioned yesterday. She is divorced, has a child, has had the same job for almost ten years and loves it. She is tall but does not mind if a man is at least her height. Taller ladies are usually more flexible on their height preference than shorter ladies. She was viewing the Available Singles on my website and responded very positively to a man who wrote about his ideal lady “She understands that “Mother” is the word for God on the lips and hearts of all children.” As it turns out, they would not be a good match for each other but I have several other men who are good matches. Her sister has been trying to get her to call me for years, she has seen my ads for years and I met her at the “Famous” restaurant last fall and gave her my card, but it was what he wrote that inspired her to pick up the phone and call. Everything happens for a reason.

My last appointment today is mid 20’s, a military man, ABS, no kids, and his long term goal is marriage and children. He has already been deployed once and will be two or three more times in the next few years. He said “It’s for six months instead of a year, so I wouldn’t be gone that long.” I said “The good news is you are so young you have a lot of time to find the right lady, and I think it’s great that you are serious enough about it to be sitting here talking to me. The bad news is, I don’t have any matches for you.” I don’t have much activity in the early to mid 20’s age range, but I really want to help this young man. He is a clean cut, all American kid who wants to get it right the first time he marries. So many of his fellow soldiers are divorced, fighting custody battles, or not getting to see their kids. I made him an offer he didn’t refuse and I told him I would write about him in my daily diary. He feels he can comfortably date up to mid 30’s and he is cute, cute, cute. I know most men probably would not want to be described as cute but it looks real cute on him. He’s fit and active but is not looking for a “jock”. He is a “9” in affection, his most motivating score, and would be most compatible with a very affectionate lady. If he sounds like a match for you or anyone you know, I would love to hear from you. I might make you an offer you won’t refuse.

To be continued tomorrow………………….