Donna's Daily Diary - March 3, 2010

This beautiful weather has my phone ringing off the wall. Springtime, sunshine, being outdoors, meeting someone special, falling in love, a trip to the hot springs, this is what I have been talking about today. I booked four new appointments and they are 43, 44, 47, and 57, two men, two women. I definitely have the most activity in the 40’s these days but that changes, and what I focus on is how many matches I have for the person I am interviewing.

My first appointment today is a lady, mid 40’s, divorced, one grown child, a successful, self employed business owner and her long term goal is marriage. In her last relationship they lived together for several years and she said she would never live with someone again. She said “You know that saying “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” This lady is no cow. She is smart, beautiful, funny, classy and has a lot to offer to a relationship with the right person. She said “I have been married once and I have lived with two men. I never had the sense of security and belonging that I want to feel in a relationship when I lived with someone. I want a man to stand with me, hold my hands, look into my eyes and say “I do”. I don’t want to be someone’s “girlfriend” for the rest of my life.” Seems like I am hearing that comment more and more in recent years. She is active and very fit. I asked her how she stays so fit and she said “Pilates”. She said “I enjoy being active but I don’t want to compete with anyone.” She went on a hike recently with a man she just met and he wore her out. She said “I kept up with him but it wasn’t much fun, it was like do or die, and I felt like I was being tested. I would much rather have done a lighter hike, taken a basket with some wine, cheese and crackers, sat on a blanket and talked.” I asked her age preference for a man, and I bet you can hear this one coming……………….grrrrrrrrrrr, a cougar. 30 to 40, IF, he’s a “young” 40. You could look at this lady and think she is 25. She said she had a little “help”, and I didn’t ask her what that meant, but it sure looks good on her. So many people take advantage of cosmetic surgery today it is almost impossible to guess a person’s age. I ask people before they come in for the interview how old they are and I am constantly surprised when they walk through my door, men and women. Never assume!

My second appointment is a lady, late 40’s, divorced, no kids and her long term goal is marriage. She has been divorced for ten years and in a long distance, off and on, relationship for the last five years. Off and on is bad enough, long distance relationship is almost impossible, and they only see each other every six months. Add it up..five years, seen each other approximately ten times and it’s going nowhere. This lady is delightful and she’s no Barbie doll but she is realistic. She said “I’m not looking for a great looking guy because I’m not a great looking woman, and I’m looking for a man I can spend the rest of my life with and be comfortable. She wants passion and chemistry and unconditional love, just like Barbie.

To be continued tomorrow……………………….