Donna's Daily Diary - November 10, 2009

My first appointment today is a man I worked with starting back in 1993. He is 60, divorced, with one grown child and he is retired. His long term goal is a serious, committed relationship. He would live with someone without being married and he is not sure he would marry again. When I worked with him 16 years ago he had a short trim beard. Today, he is clean shaven, including his head and, he looks younger than he did 16 years ago. For the most part, it seems a beard makes men look older and ladies are not that keen on beards, unless they are short and trim. Even then, the preferred choice is usually clean shaven. Except for the younger age range, 25 to 40, leans towards the mustache and goatee. I asked him why he decided to work with me again and he said “I met some nice ladies through you and I haven’t met anyone in the last few years that has interested me.” He is also retired and does not have much exposure to ladies on his own. I retested him and after 16 years, his scores were very much the same. A lady I introduced to him in 1998 also recently came back to work with me and when I read the feedback from both of them when they met 16 years ago it seemed like there was a connection but he met someone on his own and, I never heard from him until yesterday. We agreed that she will be his first match if she is interested. I can’t wait to call her tomorrow and say “Do you remember this guy you met in 1998? Well, he would like to meet you again.”

My second interview is a lady in her early 50’s, divorced, grown children and, she is Asian. She is cute, petite, smart, successful, family oriented and very sweet. She said “When you match me will you tell them I am Asian?” I said “Absolutely.” She said “Do you think that will be a problem?” I said “I will only match you with men who respond positively to the fact that you are Asian.” In Colorado Springs I work with many men, military men in particular, who often times prefer Asian ladies. This lady has invested in a couple of high profile dating services in Denver and has been very disappointed in the lack of results. Her children are grown and she feels like it is time to focus on herself. She realized a big missing part of her life was not having a special man to share it all. She said “I would like to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, someone I can be comfortable with and be myself, someone I look forward to going home to and spending time with, someone who loves me as much as I love him.” I have some great matches for her.

Feedback today from a lady on her first meeting with a man I matched her with…. “He was very good looking and initially I was like, Wow, go Donna! We spent two hours together and I am guessing he talked for an hour and forty five minutes of that time. Every time he asked me a question and I started to answer, he would interrupt me and take over the conversation. By the time the meeting was over I couldn’t wait for him to shut up. He walked me to my car and told how much he enjoyed meeting me and what a great conversationalist I was. I thought, you don’t know anything about me and I don’t care to know anymore about you.” Suddenly, he wasn’t so good looking.

To be continued tomorrow………………………….