Donna's Daily Diary - December 9, 2009

The guy on the radio just said that with the wind chill factor it is six degrees below zero at 10am. By Saturday it will be all the way up to the high 30’s or low 40’s and winter does not officially start until December 21st. This is Goose Bay, Labrador cold and I am ready for it to go away!

My first interview is a lady, early 50’s, divorced, grown children, one long term marriage to a military officer. Her long term goal is to find a good Christian man to marry. She was a “stay at home” mom all of her marriage. She raised wonderful children, had a lovely home, loves to cook and entertain, loved cooking their family dinners nightly, volunteered for a number of community services and, thought she was happily married until he met someone else and asked for a divorce. Her world was turned upside down in a heartbeat but she is healing and looking towards the future. She said “I want to be a “stay at home” wife. Does the type of man who wants to marry a woman who truly loves him and wants to care for him, support him, cook for him and be there for him, be honest and loyal to him, still exist?” Last week I had a 34 year young lady tell me she wanted to be a “stay at home” mom when she has babies and she wanted to know if that type of man still existed. She was meeting men who wanted a career woman and a second income. The answer to both of them is “Yes, but not too many.” When I graduated from high school in 1965 my parents did not want to send me to college because the expectation was that I would marry in a year or two and have kids. Why waste the money on college? Forty four years later the pendulum has swung so far that these two ladies wonder if the opportunity even still exists to be a wife and mother and be financially supported by a man. When I match these two ladies I am going to tell the men right up front, their long term goal is “stay at home” mom, “stay at home” wife.

My second appointment today has a most unusual story. She married her high school sweetheart whom she started dating when she was 14. Two kids and 30 years later, they are recently divorced and she is ready to date. During their lengthy separation of several years, he traveled with his job. When he came home, he stayed in their house…on the couch..for Thanksgiving, Christmas, kids birthdays..as often as once a month. I told her that would not work very well if she wanted to start dating and then, of course, I start to wonder how “emotionally available” she really is. She convinced me she is definitely emotionally available. This woman has not dated since she was 14 and it did not take too much convincing on my part for her to think dating is a really good idea. She is adorable! Pretty, sweet, so easy going, a great mother, loves her job, is excited about dating, wants to be married again, wants a man who looks forward to coming home, who wants to spend time with her, who wants to decorate the Christmas tree with her, who wants to be close and intimate, who respects her opinion, who doesn’t get angry and who loves her and she knows it. Immediately I knew all the things that have been missing for her in her marriage. This will be such an adventure for her and I so look forward to helping her.

To be continued tomorrow…………………………