Donna's Daily Diary - December 11, 2009

A couple I matched in September of 2008 just stopped by my office to say “Happy Holidays” and show me her new engagement ring. He asked her to marry him last night and they are so happy and excited. They went out to a very romantic place for dinner and when they were finished he told her how much she means to him and happy he is to have her in his life. They had talked about getting married but she had no idea he was going to ask her last night. He told her he loved her and wanted to spend the rest of his life with her and he was ready to “take the next step” if she was. She said “Yes, of course.” He said “Good, then I won’t have to return this.” He got down on his knee, asked her to marry him, opened the ring box and she about fainted. Afterwards they went to the Golden Bee to celebrate and he had arranged for his parents, her parents, his brother and her best friend to join them. She could not believe everyone knew about this and she had no clue. This couple is such a good match. They have very compatible scores and although they both want children she knows she cannot have children so they plan to adopt. When I interviewed this young lady she knew she wanted children but could not have children. She asked me how difficult I thought it would be to find a man who would be interested in adoption. I told her that was another way I would screen for her by telling the men before they met her. Several men passed on meeting her before the man she is marrying came along. I will never forget his response when I first shared her information with him. He said “How many people really know if they can have children until they try? I would like to meet her.” Once again, it only takes ONE right one.

My first interview today is a man, mid 40’s, divorced with one child. His child is four years old. He said “How many ladies do you have who will be interested in meeting a man my age with a four year old?” I shared information with him on five ladies whom, not only were good matches but, would also be fine with the fact that he has a four year old. In fact, two of these ladies have children close to the same age. He was in his late 30’s when he married and had several serious long term relationships before he married. He was confident he had found the right woman and was on the top of the world when his child was born. He said “Four years later it’s hard for me to believe I am divorced and starting over but I still want what I have always wanted, to be happily married and share my life with someone.” He also said he has no regrets because he has this wonderful child. He said “This time the lady has to not only be right for me, she has to also be right for my child and that makes this decision even more important.” He is also open to having more children. He said he read one of my daily diaries where I talked about people having children later and later and how they would be going to their children’s graduations and receiving their AARP cards in the mail at the same time and he thought “that’s me!” It actually inspired him to call me because he realized he was not the only one his age with a young child. I told him when it comes to that he has plenty of company.

To be continued tomorrow………………………