Donna's Daily Diary - December 17, 2009

I been have caught up in the Christmas spirit this week and I am a couple of days behind on Donna’s Daily Diary. Thursdays “Available Singles” are:

This young lady is mid to late 30’s, ABS (always been single), has a Master’s degree and teaches music. Her long term goal is marriage and she prefers the options to have children. Her interests include; gardening, dancing, dining out, movies, plays, music, concerts, reading and traveling.

This is her ideal relationship:

My “ideal” relationship is one that is based on mutual respect, kindness and friendship. I would like to spend my future in this type of a relationship with a man of integrity; somebody who appreciates and works for what he has in life, and doesn’t expect to be handed everything, and who prefers to see the glass as “half full” rather than “half empty.” In addition, I love a sense of humor in a man, and admire when people know the appropriate times for seriousness and level-headedness as well. I have been told I have a big heart, and I’d just really like to find somebody who would love spending time with me as much as I’d love spending time with him.”

This young man is early 30’s, ABS, has a Bachelor’s degree, and his long term goal is marriage and children. His interests include; golf, downhill skiing, hiking, traveling, basketball, working out, dining out, and, spending time with family and friends.

This is his ideal relationship:

An ideal relationship for me would be with a person who first and foremost is my best friend. Someone who will openly communicate with me and share their feelings is important. A person I can laugh and cry with and share support through life’s ups and downs would be great. Sharing the American dream of a white picket fence, children and, a nice home with the right person would make my life complete.”

I received another Christmas card from a couple I matched in 1996 and they have been married for ten years. Every time I think of this couple I remember showing him her picture, which I do not usually do, and he wasn’t sure he felt an attraction. I encouraged him to meet her for an hour anyway and he agreed. Six months later I went to their wedding. That was the day I decided to be much more careful about showing a picture. Most people do not take a good picture and you will see things in person that you just cannot see in a picture. Today, I say “take an hour to meet and if you don’t find them attractive, I won’t count it as a match.” I think one of my best talents as a matchmaker is that I have a “good eye” for picking levels of attraction. Certainly as I match and get feedback this becomes more fine tuned. No one knows better than I how important physical attraction is but, I also know it only takes you so far. What I do at Perfectly Matched is opposite of what people do on their own. I start with the things that matter and ADD the mutual physical attraction, then there is much more potential for success.

To be continued tomorrow……………………………..