Donna's Daily Diary - December 23, 2009

I spent a couple of hours in the office today returning phone calls. My first conversation was with a client who went “on hold” three months ago because he had met a lady on his own. He had only gone out with her a couple of times when he decided to not meet anyone else. I encouraged him to keep his options open and meet someone else until he had spent more time getting to know this lady. His response was “I don’t date two ladies at one time.” I shared my thoughts on the three month rule, to no avail. Three months to the day he called to share she is not emotionally available and still has feelings for her ex boyfriend. He just wasted three months of his personal life with someone who was not emotionally available to begin with. How much of a chance do you have to capture someone’s heart when they are still in love with someone else? ZERO…..This is another way I screen for my clients, I ask people on the phone before I invite them in for an interview “Do you think you are emotionally available and in the right frame of mind to meet someone new and move on?” The worst possible answer I have ever gotten from that question was from a man who had already told me he was just two WEEKS out of a 22 year marriage. He said “I know am (emotionally available).” I said “How do you know?” He said “Because I can’t stand to be alone.” Wrong answer. You are most ready for a relationship when you are comfortable with your own company.

My second conversation was with a lady who heard from two men today she had dated months ago and never expected to hear from again. The first one was a man who decided not to see her anymore when she declined to be intimate with him on their fourth date. The second was a man who told her he was in a relationship with someone else but he “didn’t think it was going to work out.” She told had told the first man she was not intimate in a relationship until she was in love and she had only gone out with him three times. He said, “Four”….big difference. She left and never heard from him until today when he “just called to say Merry Christmas.” The other man said he “was just thinking about her.” She asked me why I thought she had heard from them now and I asked her if she was still interested in either of these men and she said “No.” I said “It’s just the holidays and they are probably reflecting on missed opportunities and either way, it doesn’t matter if you are not interested.” I told her I also think they are both “players” and what goes around, comes around. Neither one of these men deserved this lady’s attention and good for her that she did not settle for either of them.

I had an email today from a lady who met a man on a plane and he told her he met his wife through Perfectly Matched. She said “He said great stuff about you and I want to learn more about what you do.” There must be something very personal about conversations with a stranger on a plane. Almost every time someone has met someone on a plane who has told them about my service they have become a new client. Karma? Fate? Destiny? Or just a call to 260-1000.

Tomorrow is Christmas Eve. Merry Christmas everyone, 2010 is just around the corner. Peace on earth. Goodwill to all.

To be continued Saturday…………………………………….