Dear Donna,
My girlfriend cheated on me and now she wants me back. We were together for four years and I was devastated when she told me she was in love with a coworker. I have spent the last few months trying to get over this and was just starting to feel better. She told me she never stopped loving me and the other guy turned out to be a jerk. A month ago I would have taken her back in a heartbeat but I recently met someone I really enjoy and was looking forward to getting to know her better.
I am torn because I would love to believe I could have what I used to have with my ex-girlfriend but I don’t know if I can trust her again. We lived together and she wants to move back in so I have to decide quickly. Randy
Dear Randy,
No, you don’t have to decide quickly, and you shouldn’t. At the very least you should not agree to letting her move in right away. You should tell your ex-girlfriend that you have met someone you are interested in getting to know better and keep going in the direction you were already going. If she is sincere about wanting you back in her life she will respect your decision and give you the time you need. The ball is in your court and it is not your responsibility to provide her with a place to live.
Everyone comes into your life for a reason and the lady you recently met could be there to help you move on.
I think you will find it easier to get over your ex-girlfriend than it will be to trust her again.